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Ebb & Flow Counselling, Mindfulness & Meditation

Chronic pain and opioid use-myths and truths.

For those of us living with chronic pain, it is perfectly understandable to attempt to find the cause of the pain so that it can be suitably managed or treated. And alongside this searc h for what is physically wrong, we also have a very strong desire to find the right combination of painkillers to Continue reading »

To work better rest more!

The to-do list is never ending…   Your inbox never seems to get empty…   Despite time saving gadgets we feel time poor…   Although there are policies around work-life balance, we are constantly switched-on, answering emails in our personal time and on holidays.   When was the last time you used your lunch break Continue reading »

Reality is constructed in the mind… And chronic pain?

We know that our perceptions do not mirror objective, external reality.  Take people with psychosis for example or other neuropsychological conditions-they see things which cannot be perceived by others.  Demonstrating that we can perceive things that really are not there.  The subject of a new book is about whether everyday perception is also just as Continue reading »

Do we need happiness/well-being research?

The news makes for some really depressing viewing, and in the counselling room I hear the personal accounts of people’s distress and sorrow, as well as their frustrations, achievements and hopes.   Evolutionary psychology and neuroscience have demonstrated that human beings have evolved with a negative bias in the way we think.  Without this constant Continue reading »

Reflections upon receptivity

I have been reflecting on the concept of receptivity lately.  For me receptivity is an attitude of openness and trust; rather than striving and achieving.  It is about being open to allow opportunities and experiences to arrive,  rather than the closed attitude that usually accompanies reaching for specific goals and targets, or in maintaining the Continue reading »

The courage to forgive?

The terror attacks of last week shocked the nation, and the effects of this are still reverberating.   However what I have experienced has not been a raise in anger or prejudice or discrimination-but an outpouring of generosity, compassion thankfulness and gratefulness.  Many voices have spoken of London and the nation pulling together to get Continue reading »

What is all this mindfulness stuff I keep hearing about?

We seem to be hearing a lot about mindfulness these days.  And it is being touted as a way to manage everything from depression and anxiety, to chronic pain, and addictions such as alcohol, among others.  We might have even heard of mindfulness being used in schools, prisons or in health care.  Yes, there certainly Continue reading »

Look behind you and celebrate your achievements!

We are constantly looking ahead….our holidays, to the things we have to do next week, to the stuff we have planned even years in advance.  Is it time to look backwards? I was recently looking for a reference that I had used in a piece of writing I had done a year or so ago.  Continue reading »