Having a different relationship with difficult feelings or sensations can help you move forward says Kim a Wrexham Counsellor.
Before I found Mindfulness I was a chronic pain sufferer and was either looking for the next fix (in medication or complementary health) or had resigned myself to a life of disability and loneliness. I now longer take any medication, I am far from alone, and am working and playing almost as able as I was before my pain. Mindfulness was a big part of that change, and in particular meditations around acceptance and self-compassion. This is not passive, fluffy bunny stuff-this is courageous and active stuff. In order to accept our physical or emotional pain we have to allow ourselves to really FEEL it, look at it and get curious about all aspects of it. This is really challenging when our usual response to the unpleasant or unwelcome is to push it away or ignore it. Facing your greatest fear and being with it is not for the feint-hearted even when done with kindness, gentleness and compassion towards ourselves. In getting to know your pain without judgement or criticism it somehow dissolves the intensity of it and maybe you can appreciate that your pain is not as fixed and solid as you first believed. Living with pain is often living with fear…but it doesn’t have to be this way. For more information on counselling for pain management or mindfulness for health, contact Kim.