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Chronic pain and opioid use-myths and truths.

For those of us living with chronic pain, it is perfectly understandable to attempt to find the cause of the pain so that it can ...
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To work better rest more!

The to-do list is never ending…   Your inbox never seems to get empty…   Despite time saving gadgets we feel time poor…   Although ...
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There’s a lot of it about-chronic pain and the use of opiates

If you know me, or know of me then you may be aware that I live with chronic pain.  Almost 10 years ago non-specific lower ...
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Reality is constructed in the mind… And chronic pain?

We know that our perceptions do not mirror objective, external reality.  Take people with psychosis for example or other neuropsychological conditions-they see things which cannot ...
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Do we need happiness/well-being research?

The news makes for some really depressing viewing, and in the counselling room I hear the personal accounts of people’s distress and sorrow, as well ...
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Reflections upon receptivity

I have been reflecting on the concept of receptivity lately.  For me receptivity is an attitude of openness and trust; rather than striving and achieving.  ...
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Blowing up your problems to the size of a cow? (apologies Wonder Stuff!)

The Wonder Stuff sang about blowing up our problems to the size of a cow..it happens so quickly and slips under our radar. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A2h8k4x-C04 Let’s ...
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The courage to forgive?

The terror attacks of last week shocked the nation, and the effects of this are still reverberating.   However what I have experienced has not ...
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What is all this mindfulness stuff I keep hearing about?

We seem to be hearing a lot about mindfulness these days.  And it is being touted as a way to manage everything from depression and ...
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Look behind you and celebrate your achievements!

We are constantly looking ahead….our holidays, to the things we have to do next week, to the stuff we have planned even years in advance.  ...
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Relationship rough-patch survival.

Rough patches in our relationships are inevitable and can feel very uncomfortable.  Who would not be scared when in examining their relationship they feel that ...
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Demystifying and managing workplace bullying

When I was a nurse I experienced bullying from a senior colleague which impacted greatly on my self-esteem and confidence both professionally and personally.  She ...
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Radio Ga Ga Ga

Action for Happiness state that one of the ways that we can maintain our mental well-being is to keep learning. My husband complains on a ...
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To love is to risk hurting…

Loving someone or something and being loved back feels amazing.  Love is, after all, about caring and concern for the other person and so to ...
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Communicating at Christmas: arrgh!

We're all getting a bit busier in our pre-Christmas preparations - writing cards, wrapping presents, hoping the postal strike won't stop our cards from being ...
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Underestimating the amount of time to perform tasks trap

Do you ever run around doing little jobs 10 minutes before you leave the house? Many times I have found that I am perhaps 20 ...
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The power of friendship

They say cliches are called cliches because they're true. Some cliches around friendship that I have come across state that friends are like the stars, ...
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The challenge of feeling your anxiety to broaden your world

  At this time of year, our thoughts often turn to looking back at what we've achieved and perhaps at looking forward to planning goals. ...
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Strike a pose to make a good impression and feel confident!

In looking at how to make a good first impression last time, we explored a little about verbal and non-verbal communication and how that may ...
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On why first impressions count

It has been said, that we form an opinion of someone we have never met before within the first 3 seconds.  Not only do we ...
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It’s good to be back!

I have not written here for a few weeks, I have been on holiday and I have been on study leave; and I have a ...
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On the science of kindness.

Kindness.  Back in the 1980's kindness would have perhaps been seen as a sign of weakness.  The 80's was all about the individual, shoulder pads ...
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Thoughts are not facts.

  In my work as a counsellor and mindfulness teacher I listen carefully to what I am being told.  The details of what I might ...
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Sleep. Want more?

Sleeping in the recent hot weather has brought with it the conundrum of open velux windows to feel cooler versus the early morning sun waking ...
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